Here is our interns second installment of his experience in our short course, coping with crisis. It seems that he is enjoying it and also learning a great deal from it, enjoy.
HAT session reflection #2 by Ng Pak Wing, Stanley
HAT course reflection #2
Into the second lesson of “Coping with Crisis” I was taught to dig deeper to people’s interactions, from noticing their tone to be conscious of the tiny details from their breath.
This lesson starts with a round of physical warmups, including yoga postures and spinal rolls. Not a gym–goer, I felt slightly cramped when holding my body up, but in doing so I noticed how I breathe.
This was followed by practicing a series of emotions, which relieved my tensions. Before the lesson, I was busy organizing an upcoming conference, and was distracted and a little annoyed by sudden tasks and amendments from planning the conference. Having the room to break away and perform different moods, I become less anxious and overwhelmed.
Then, it led me to a game of impressions, where everyone follows a person’s movement and breath. Due to the lag in online conferencing the former was slightly harder to do, but I was eventually able to catch up to both.
The game reminded me of my sensitivity to sighs and how I weigh the perception others have of me heavily. I tense up whenever my family members feel disappointed or annoyed. Contrary to my negative connotations, noticing people’s breath here is a sturdy starting point to learn their underlying problems, and then coming up with holistic solutions.
Continuing from the first lesson, this session shifted to role plays – delivering bad news after usual greetings. Seeing the differences between leading discussions with aggressive and passive actions, I reflected on how I talk in various situations. The former is more useful when I need to cut through a discussion and get quick answers in an interview. However, when using the same stern tactic to talk to others, like my parents, this could be less useful as it deviates from their ideal picture and may raise quarrels.
From here, I learnt to retract my position slightly, changing my action and respecting the situations others are in, whilst making sense of the context behind their disapproval, or other emotions.
To sum up, the course delved deeper into various aspects of a discussion, where we could look back and discuss which parts were previously perceived wrongly, or used in a wrong context.
I look forward to where will the course leads me in improving daily discussions next time.